Well another general election is over! Lots of resignations, lots of regrets but also lots of people handling their emotions very well in what must be difficult times. Emotional intelligence will be key to how each party moves forward and reconnects with the nation. In Scotland, it would be fair to say a historic day and I am sure Nicola and her 56 MPs will be celebrating and hopefully for the others, they can find the resilience to reflect positively on the result.
Last week I was particularly aware of emotional intelligence, my own and other peoples. This could have been due to the fact that I was running the 2 day EQ-i 2.0 certification training on Thursday and Friday and I was busy getting prepared for the course. However, being aware of emotional intelligence really reinforced the importance of knowing how you feel, how you express your feelings and how other people interpret them. How one uses their emotions is at the core of the EQ-i 2.0 emotional intelligence development tool that focuses on 5 composite scales and 15 subscales. All these elements impact performance, emotional and social functioning as well as overall well being.
Last week, I attended a number of events and observed emotional intelligence in action. On Tuesday I attended an event in the Great Hall at Edinburgh Castle for the launch of the 5th Military Battalion Reservists. Looking at the emotional intelligence model and the factors that make up the model, it was inspiring hear some of the incredible stories and see how the award winners managed their emotional intelligence. Self perception, stress tolerance and management were extremely high, especially considering some of very dangerous circumstances these people experienced. Unexpectedly, a friend had been invited too. She generously shared her scarf with me as we braved the Edinburgh evening winds to watch the spectacular military brass band play a 20 minute outdoor set. Truly wonderful surroundings.
The following morning, I headed to Glasgow to attend a Women’s Business Breakfast hosted by Nicola Sturgeon. Scotland’s First Minister was full of energy and as an observer I noted the impact her emotional intelligence made. She showed empathy and emotional expression, creating a rapport with the audience – knowing many journalist by names, remaining completely in control and drawing on her IQ, then harnessing her EI to deliver strong messages with impact. It was interesting to watch her speak, engage and inspire many of the female business women there – what a strength of character she has! It was made even more special attending the event with a friend, Julie. We had the rare opportunity, while we travelled there and back, to have an uninterrupted chat!
The week ended on an emotional intelligence high training a group of coaches in the two day EQ-i 2.0 Emotional Intelligence Certification workshop. Seeing the coaches work together to go understand their own EI & reports and learn how to deliver structured feedback using an EQ-i assessment was brilliant. Being in a room of strong, empathetic and wonderful coaches was a pleasure. Well done for all passing with high marks.
Connecting with positive, inspirational and supportive people gives you an enormous sense of wellbeing – it is key to keeping our EI healthy.
So what did I learn about my own EI this week? Firstly, we can only control our own emotions – we can choose to use them, lose them or abuse them – choose wisely. Secondly, you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with, choose wisely and this week I certainly did! Thank you to all the inspirational, positive and supportive people I spent time with.
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